7 things you should not say to your spouse

A healthy marital relationship lies on a delicate thread of trust and transparency. Whatever a partner says either uplifts or hurts the other. It is necessary to know the difference between healthy bantering and rude comments. By avoiding a few harmful phrases and opting for constructive criticism, would foster that great bond. Let’s take a look at the seven things you should definitely avoid to say to your spouse.

1. I don’t care
Saying "I don’t care" can sound like a dismissive tone and it may look like disrespect of your significant other’s choices. Even if you disagree with your spouse's feelings, it's important to acknowledge them. A better response might be, “I see this is important to you, and I want to understand your perspective.”

2. It’s your fault, it always is
It is important to know that discouraging mistakes may lead to a situation where the other person may not feel like doing anything at all. Blaming doesn’t always help. Piling the blame and regarding them as any less would create an unnecessary barrier in a healthy relationship.

3. I told you so
‘We will solve the situation together’ or ‘Next time, let’s discuss it properly before making hasty decisions’ are the alternatives you could say. Proving that you are right is not the ultimate win, growing together is.

4. You are such an idiot
Harsh words at the wrong time could be seen as hatred. It is important to analyse the situation and work on the tone so that a healthy relationship doesn’t perish away.



5. The D word
Divorce – the word that would change the entire course of your relationship in a split second, followed by an array of overthinking situations. Losing hope in a relationship is not a compulsion but a choice. Throwing a D card repeatedly would lead to insecurity and haunting thoughts.

6. Comparing former lovers
Comparing your spouse to your ex is an open invitation to destruction. A want of treatment, respect or materials can be said verbally through different ways, constructively. Comparing may lead to insecurity of not being up to the mark and would hamper the growth of the relationship.

7. I never loved you
‘I love You’ is something you should say repeatedly, it gives reassurance and relief. The exact opposite of reassurance ‘I never loved you’ will lead to questioning every possibility and course of your relationship. It is important to handle the problems calmly.